Surviving Under Stressful Situation
My whole life I have been involved with family affairs. I have two sisters and brothers whom I grew up with and one brother outside of my mother’s marriage. My mother came from a large family also. She, her sisters and brothers are known for being great cooks and big boned people. Growing up in my mom’s house, she instilled that family tradition in her daughters. My mom cooked so much when I was a child, I didn’t care or have the passion for cooking when I grew up. Today even through my mom sickness, she still have passion for cooking and serving others in her heart. Once a cook is always a cook. I believe that for all things. If you are a Runner, Cross Fit Trainer, Professional Gymnast, Doctor, Lawyer, and the list can go on and on, whatever your profession is or your desire and passion you have for something, you will never want to give that up by choice.
It’s going on two years now since my mom two spinal surgeries. She has had some rough times. It’s not easy been independent your whole life then broke down in the prime of your life to where you are impaired. I can understand her pain and what she’s going through. There’s not a lot of support from her children. When she ask people to do things, their mouth is stuck out. Now, If you don’t already understand sick people or handicap people, their frame of mind set is that I don’t want to be a bother. They are in the last stage of depression because they can’t do the things they love to do. Eventually, they give up hope.
When things happen unexpectedly, everyone has to stop and revaluate their lifestyle.
For the first year, my sisters and I were making arrangements alternating shifts. It was a huge adjustment, but we worked it out. Going on the second year, I found myself doing most of the work, which was causing me to fall in a state of depression. Today I’m still trying to make my mom condition as comfortable as possible. I work full time for the USPS, I took in my 7 year old niece, another story, and rendering music to the church I play for. You would think that it’s not enough time in the day for one person to achieve those type of responsibilities. You are right! One person can not do all those things alone and stay sane. I have had days that I wanted to drop everything, my job, leave my home, leave the church and run away. I had too much stress buildup and I didn’t know how to deal with it.
One day I just decided that I needed some me time so I took it.
My house is an open house to my family. My sisters and their children lives with me until they leave at night It gets hard dealing with a lot of noise and house full of folks. They come and go as they please. I never will understand how my sisters are over, but I’m called on most by my mom. I had to take some control over my life again before I allowed stress to over take me.
How I manage to get over stress and start living again
I start back exercising
I took time to myself in a quiet place
I had to communicate with my family, let them know I’m not in this alone
I start going to events to enjoy myself
I went for rides to clear my head
I survived my mom going through 2 six hours surgeries, 2 times placed into a rehabilitation Hospital and several Therapy treatments. The biggest thing that change me most was when I started exercising. It took so much off my chest. I felt better and energetic. I wasn’t snappy all the time anymore. It is amazing how doing something you have passion about will turn your life around. I’m doing great now! I’m Finishing up a 21 Day Fix Challenge and getting prep for a T25 Challenge. I’m better now than I was a year ago and striving to be even better.
I hope my story can inspire you and take a step back and analyze your situations or circumstances and make a change before Stress consume you. Do what you love and fit everything else around your schedule.
